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Guilt and shame often weigh heavily in Asian immigrant families and BIPOC communities, shaped by family expectations, cultural values, and the stress of navigating life in a new country. Despite how common these feelings are, they’re rarely discussed openly and can leave us feeling weighed down and isolated in our experiences.

We all have tendencies to react in certain ways in our relationships – sometimes leaving us feeling stuck, confused, or disconnected. These reactions are often unconscious patterns tucked away in our blind spots, leaving us unsure why we do what we do. This is where understanding your attachment style can offer clarity, especially as we navigate the many relationships in our lives.

Burnout is a reality for many, particularly for those of us from BIPOC immigrant backgrounds. The pressures of work, family, and personal expectations can feel overwhelming—especially for those of us juggling multiple responsibilities while trying to meet cultural and familial expectations.

As a former people pleaser, I understand just how overwhelming it can be to overcome the hurdles of habitually pleasing others. Many of us go decades unaware of our tendencies, and the thought of overcoming these ingrained patterns can seem like a mountain to climb.

The idea of being perfect is something many struggle with. I emphasize the word ‘idea’ because perfection does not exist. It is a destination that cannot be reached. An itch that cannot be fully scratched – yet that knowledge doesn’t seem to quiet down the perfectionist part of many. As someone who has struggled with perfectionism, this topic hits home.

When a newborn comes into the world, they do not automatically adopt negative thoughts. And yet, most of us have an ‘Oscar the Grouch’ living inside our mind rent free. It is the fierce inner critic that pops up when we encounter a potential threat.

It’s no secret that life changes can have a drastic impact on our wellbeing. Change can be muddy. Just as one door opens, another closes, and turning the page to a new chapter can be hard. Perhaps there is the loss of a great community, or the loss of hope from an unfulfilled dream. Feelings may begin to surface as we come to terms with our new reality.